Fact: Bisexual women and lesbians used to give each other violets to symbolize their love in the early 20th century, referencing a poem by Sappho. Gay and bisexual men used to wear carnations, a trend started by Oscar Wilde. Gay and bisexual communities have always been intertwined, sharing in each other’s love and struggles and creating history together.
why does nobody ever talk about how the belief of “romance is the top priority” is so toxic and dangerous? how it causes more harm than good?
this doesn’t even just affect aromantic people. this belief harms anyone and everyone.
there are people that literally believe their life has no point because they don’t have a significant other. there’s mentally ill/neurodivergent people that think they’re worthless and meaningless and disgusting because they can’t find someone who wants to date them, even if they’re showered with love from their friends and/or family. but the love only counts if it’s romantic, right?
society is constantly perpetuating the idea that you were born to find a romantic partner and that romance is the only way to be truly happy, and it’s so messed up. this completely disregards other great moments in life, like personal achievements that make you feel like you’re on top of the world and the things nobody glorifies simply because it’s not romance.
your pet(s) pulling a smile out of you every time you see them. having a deep, emotional talk with a friend and being reminded that someone cares about you. enjoying alone time with yourself. reaching a milestone or getting through a hard time. these things are so wonderful and amazing, but it’s not romance, so it doesn’t matter, right? it’s boring and insignificant.
and it really shows when questions like “do you have a boyfriend/girlfriend yet?” and “have you settled down with someone yet?” are asked. it shows how society thinks romance is the most important thing to experience in life. the “yet” implies that romance is a requirement, that you’ll have to find it eventually. but what if you don’t want to? if you simply aren’t interested in that stuff right now or if you won’t ever be interested?
romance is not everything. remember that. you were not born to “find someone” or to “have a soulmate”. you don’t need romance in your life for it to be a good one. you are allowed to not include it in your priorities. it doesn’t matter if nobody has a crush on you or wants to date you. it literally doesn’t matter. that has absolutely no importance to your worth as a human being. you were not brought into this world to impress and find a potential mate. you’re here to live and to do what makes you happy.
romance can be nice, but it is not everything. please, please remember that.
The Goddess Imentet-Hathor depicted as “Mistress of the West”, greeting pharaoh Horemheb in his tomb. New Kingdom, 18th Dynasty, ca. 1292 BC. Valley of the Kings, West Thebes.
If you are ever in doubt about how to send the Nazis back underground, ask an older punk. They’ll tell you it starts with a “Nazis fuck off” and ends with a big stompy boot to the face.
a shame when the only “fresh produce” inner city families recieve is rotting nutrients found in corner stars. check your privilege brain, it may not be expensive but sometimes it’s inaccessible.
Also $11 is a lot of money for some people? That could go to a larger amount of longer-lasting food, like how much soup, beans, pasta, and rice could that buy? What if you need a new pair of work pants or extra gas money?
Chartreuse Abstruseness Export 