Pride and Prejudice cast, inspired by #StarringJohnCho bc wow imagine (Karen Gillan as Elizabeth definitely is not just because I’m still sad Selfie was cancelled.)
but who is gross enough to be Mr Collins?
daniel radcliffe
not bc he’s gross but bc he’d fuckin eat that role up with a spoon he’d fuckin love it you know he would
When this photo was posted on Instagram a few months ago, i knew i had to feature it on this blog! It just one of the pictures that speak to me: Beautiful Geigi with a traditional background and a iki kimono. It checks all the boxes!
Atami is a famous hot springs resort, so the working Geigi are considered Onsen-Geisha, a term that has an undeserved negative connotation. This stems from their practice to accept first timers and tourists on a daily basis. Most full time Geigi put on a mini-odori every day and cater to busses full of tourists from Tokyo. The metropolis is about an hours drive away and a very popular destination with residents wanting to enjoy traditional culture and the benefits of the hot springs. So while not a very exclusive service, it is hard work and requires much training and dedication.
Many Geigi either work part time or consider their tenure a phase in their lives before marriage or moving on to another place. This doesn’t include all the full time Geigi who have dedicated their entire lives to the preservation of the traditional arts. The popular Geigi are booked up to a month or two in advance but there are many Geigi to fill in the blank spots and tourists can request a Geigi during their stay at a luxury hotel at the reception who will direct the order to the kenban. The private services of a troupe of Geigi can be rather costly though so the “Hana-no-mai” performances in the Atami theater might be a more democratic affair, the ozashiki are not.
It is said that there are around 400 working Geigi in Atami, the Kenban lists 170 Geigi. Maybe they didn’t count all the part time Geigi? Why wouldn’t Atami wan’t the number to be higher? If the higher number where true, it would make Atami the biggest kagai in Japan. Compared to Kyoto, where there are around 280 registered Geimaiko.
I hope to find out much more information about Atami and its Geigi. They have a well oiled social media machine with their Instagram and the kenban has a nice homepage too but somehow it was extremely hard to find out the geimei of the above Geigi. I believe it’s Hiroki-san? The kagai is a flowing world and maybe we will never find out her name but i will keep my eyes open!
this is y i generally hate kinksters despite being into all sorts of f*cked up stuff m’self bc they love imposing their gross personal sh*t on strangers
how about you let two people do what they want since it isnt actually effecting you in any way
treating a woman like a literal dog out in public does impact society. GREATLY. contrary to popular belief, we don’t live in a vacuum where our actions have no fucking consequences.
It’s just fucking rude and shitty to bring your kink play into a non-kink friendly public space because then you indirectly make everyone you come across a non-consensual part of whatever you are doing just by them being witness to it. It’s fucked up amateur hour bullshit.
Also lol at the ratty-ass dreads on the white dude. Fucking gross.
I’m physically naseuas
Imagine having to explain this to your child? This is so extra and unnecessary
yessssss i get to use this gif.
I’ve told this story before but whateves. When I worked at the pleasure chest a woman came running in one night, very worried and upset because a man who was cross-dressing was chained to the bike rack outside. She wanted me to call the police, but obviously I wanted to check on the guy first. Sure enough he was all in pink, chained to the bike rack. He told me he was perfectly fine. His Master was inside and he was more than happy to wait. Humiliation was a part of their play.
Now I’m kinky as shit, a sub and all. But this fucked me cause as a woman, cross dressing combined with humiliation leaves me feeling some type of way. And then you have the other customers who are being triggered and are genuinely in fear for this man’s safety.
He and his Master probably had a great night, but how many people who didn’t sign up to be a part of their scene went home feeling all fucked up about it? I know I did and frankly to me this most definitely violates the terms of Safe, Sane, Consensual because you are taking away other people’s ability and right to consent. In other words, you should actually keep your kinks to yourself.
Seriously, keep it in the dungeon/bedroom
Yeah. Wow. This.
the other day i was in the store with my son, who is four, and we turned into an aisle to see a guy choking a woman (presumably his girlfriend). without even thinking i turned my son around and said loudly, “HOLD ON OLIVER LOOK AT THE TORTILLAS AND COUNT HOW MANY THERE ARE” to see if the couple would do anything.
they looked at me and glared, and the girl eventually told her partner to let go of her neck and they left after i continued staring them down.
what would have happened if my son had seen that? seriously, how the fuck am i going to explain why youre choking your girlfriend next to the mac and cheese? he’s four. he doesn’t need to see that shit.
Basic rule: everyone in the scene needs to consent. Is everyone in the pic or above situations consenting??
No they are fucking not
Stop this shit
I had to have this conversation with a BDSM couple who came into my coffee shop once, her on a leash at two o’clock in the afternoon in pretty skimpy, fetish-y clothing. Basically, what I said was, “I am a huge part of your scene right now. The look on my face, my words, my thoughts, my feelings, they’re what’s fueling the very scene you’re playing out, so how are you going to tell me that everyone involved is consenting? You didn’t ask for my consent. I didn’t fill out a negotiation form. You don’t know my background, my history, my kinks, or my safeword, but you come into my place of work and expect to play out a scene with me without even asking?”
She was mortified. He tried to argue with me, but couldn’t continue once I said, “I do not consent to being part of your scene,” without exposing himself for the creepy “faux-BDSM covering for his abusive personality” loser that he was. And he was. I hate to be stereotypical, here, but he was wearing a trilby and a trench coat. In Arizona. In the summer.
A couple years later, I was at a fetish ball, outside smoking back when I used to smoke cigarettes. And while it’s not a crucial element to the story, I’m just going to say that the girl I was seeing at the time and I looked fucking awesome in our coordinated rockabilly dominatrix outfits. Anyway, I was a little drunk and smoking and here comes the exact same loser with a different young girl following half a step behind him and I maybe hollered a little too loudly, “Hey, sweetheart, you played out any scenes with non-consenting women in coffee shops lately, or did I just get lucky that time?” Because I’m an asshole who can’t keep her mouth shut.
I also once turned an aisle in the grocery store late one night to find a girl blowing her boyfriend next to the canned vegetables and I just said, “No. Nope. No. Put it away. No!” They both seemed mortified that time, at least.
But seriously, though, don’t do this shit. It’s rapey and gross. Not towards her, she might be into it, but towards me. Don’t do this shit because it’s rapey towards everyone else you’re making into unwilling participants in your sex games.
ALL OF THIS.
Just to forestall the “BUT WHAT ABOUT DEMONSTRATING MY RELATIONSHIP IN PUBLIC???” argument:
Do you normally call your partner “Mistress,” “pet,” “subhuman slimewom” or “Lord Dom of All Creation”? In public, more conventional pet names like “sweetie” or “dear,” said with the right tone of authority or reverence, can work just as well.
Take off anything that could set off a metal detector (and yes that includes cock cages ffs) before traveling on an airplane. Don’t randomly grab someone’s neck or go down on them or lead them around on a leash in public.
This is fucking basic shit. It’s no less kinky to be stealth, and it’s smarter, safer, and fucking more respectful.
And if you really, really want to be watched while you’re collared or lead around or whatever? Spend the fucking money and go to a fetish event. Otherwise it’s not “demonstrating your relationship,” it’s “weirding out vanillas gets me off.”
And its demonstrating you care little about consent or safe practices. As has been said, if everyone isnt consenting, youre doing it wrong
yeah, this isn’t kink shaming. i have a massive collar/leash kink. just don’t fucking do this in public, because … basically, all the things above. and it’s just … it’s forcing people to look at your foreplay, and that’s just really upsetting and gross and could you PLEASE not do it?
These are the folks who talk such big game about BDSM being ‘safe, sane and consensual’ but sure as hell don’t give a fuck about those around them, just themselves.
Fuck this couple.
This is actually very important for anyone thinking of bdsm play outside the bedroom:
Keep it stealth mode, because no one except you and your partner consented to see that shit.
1. DEMAND condom use 2. Hold your partners accountable for what happens in the bedroom. None of this “baby I can’t control myself around you” or “I just wanted you so bad” bullshit. 3. Coercion is real and it’s very scary and hard to identify in the moment. Establish a dialogue with your partner. Be clear on what you both want. Be clear on what you don’t want. Your boundaries should ALWAYS be respected. 4. Sex can be really emotionally and physically over-stimulating the first few times; don’t be afraid or ashamed to ask your partner to slow down, take a break, or even stop. 5. Focus less on pleasing your partner and more on exploring your partner. Everyone’s body is different and there are no “tricks” to better sex. Chances are, if you psych yourself out worrying over how well you’re “performing” then nobody’s going to have a good time. 6. Ask questions, offer suggestions. Despite what porn has probably taught you, talking during sex isn’t weird or taboo. Your partner isn’t a mind reader. They don’t know what feels good to you. [Pro-tip, a looot of people without clitorises aren’t fully aware of just HOW sensitive a clitoris is. They can be a little rough with them. Tell them to chill!!!!] 7. Your sex life is YOUR business. Don’t ever feel ashamed of how many or how few sexual partners/experiences you’re having. Do what you want, touch the people who want to touch you back, forget the rest. 8. DON’T FAKE YOUR ORGASMS!! Don’t fake your orgasms!! DON’TFAKEYOURORGAMS!! If your partner isn’t getting you there, let them know! Tell them how!! 9. There is more to sex than orgasms. Sex is a really cool way to establish intimacy and trust, to have a fun time, to relieve stress, to explore a person’s body and bring them pleasure. Don’t get me wrong, orgasms are really cool and good, but your sex life is going to be a lot better if it doesn’t revolve around them. 10. LEARN ABOUT YOUR BODY!! This goes for everyone, but ESPECIALLY if you are a person in possession of a vulva, you have been discouraged and even actively kept from vital knowledge about your anatomy! Do some google searches, buy a human sexuality textbook, masturbate. 11. Virginity is a useless concept. It’s completely okay if your virginity is something important to you and I’m not trying to belittle that idea. Just, for the record, in the grand scheme of things it’s not a big deal. Literally nothing about you changes just because you bumped uglies with someone else.
This has been a public service announcement from your friendly internet poet.
Talking about sex when not being sexy is the best first step to having sex. Don’t talk about it to turn on your partner, just discuss it casual. Talk about your thoughts and feelings, what you think you want, what scares you, what interests you, etc. Like anything you can think of. It makes the act easier and can help you establish boundaries before the act starts. Try doing it on a phone or over text so you know sex won’t start. Sometimes the distance helps you be honest.
i like how positive this post is and how it isn’t gender specific ❤ ❤ ❤
Some solid stuff here!
Also: no matter what genitals you have or what you’re doing, a little lube can go a LONG way and even be the difference between if sex will even happen or not. It’s nothing to feel embarrassed about asking for, and even if you’re not sure you’d need it, it might make the experience more enjoyable faster than it would without.
And don’t neglect to clean up afterward!! This is really important, too.
I’d like to add don’t worry if your virginity someone who turns out to be a jerk or wasn’t the special experience you expected or wanted.
This does not define you or your sexual journey and it is so common you’re not weird for having a less than great first experience.
To be perfectly honest even with the ‘right’ person your first time will most definitely suck, sexually, it’s all the times after getting to know what you and your partner like that is the best part.
p.s. also getting to point where your comfortable enough with your partner to roll around crying laughing when they fall of the bed cos it will happen mid-sexy times.
as someone who has a really bad experience with her sex life, follow these advices. they are completely true and important to take in mind ❤
Also, from one person with a vagina to any others: not everyone bleeds the first time AND bleeding can happen any time you have sex or sexy alone times involving penetration.
Here [x] is a list of reasons it may happen and suggestions about how to proceed–a lot of times it’s simply because of friction, which is why the point about lube is very important. Some of us learn these things the hard way and think we’re marked for death, but you’re most likely okay! Proceed with caution, but don’t freak yourself out.
Chartreuse Abstruseness Export 